Hi
DP and I have been together about 18 months and live together. He has an ex who really did a number on him and some of our relationship ‘issues’ in the past have been due to his anxiety over these things repeating themselves.
He was no longer friends with her on fb but is still friends with lots of her family etc. I was told by a mutual friend of the 3 of us that he was still commenting/reacting to her posts. I had a sneak around her fb and he was. As they weren’t friends I knew he had to be purposely looking her up.
we discussed this, he tried saying they were still friends etc but I know they weren’t because she used to appear in my ‘people you know’ list and he wasn’t listed as a mutual friend. He apologised and we never really got to the bottom of it but agreed to just move on. He has now blocked her
while this was going on I stupidly re-added a casual ex of mine on fb as a kind of ‘fuck you’ to him. He sent me a message, just all friendly asking how I was and I replied. Only chatted about day to day stuff.
DP and I sorted our problems but then my ex sent me a few messages about how he missed me, how I used to brighten his day etc. He did this several times so I’ve now unfriended him again but I’m worried he will keep messaging.
if my DP happens to see a message he will think I’ve been playing around behind his back so do I come clean or just forget about it and hope ex doesn’t message again?