Hi guys, regular lurker but never posted before.
I have 2 children, one son from a previous relationship who is 6 years old, and another son from my current relationship who has just turned 1.
I have been with my current partner for almost 3 years (it will be 3 years in February).
Over the last few days, I have been experiencing horrific pelvic pain, nausea, stomach pain, and feeling generally unwell. Before this, I have suffered from unusual vaginal discharge for quite some time.
I recently had a UTI (confirmed) so I thought that it had came back, as I had some pelvic pain with this. Nonetheless, it has gotten worse the last few days, so I went back to my GP yesterday.
I explained my symptoms to her including the discharge. She asked me to do a pregnancy test there (which came back negative). I had high heart rate and blood pressure on the first test but these went down after re checking. I did another urine sample and she also did two vaginal swabs for infections. She expressed her concerns and said I may have to go into hospital for the antibiotics drip, but after discussing with another doctor who knows me, they agreed I could be given an oral antibiotic prescription and be managed at home, but to be vigilant of sepsis (I have had this before following pregnancy complications with child 2).
She told me that she was going to treat me for BV and suspected a vaginal infection. I am aware BV cannot be passed on to us by men. However, she said it is also possible it could be an STD. I have to wait for test results to come back, but have received bacterial vaginal antibiotics for now, and these would be changed to appropriate antibiotics should it come back with a different infection.
I had a STD test before getting with my current partner as I had abnormal vaginal bleeding. These were all clear and the reason was something else.
My partner has not had a test done since the last person he slept with before our relationship started.
My concern is, the GP has asked me if it’s possible my partner has been unfaithful, and told me it’s highly unlikely for STD symtpoms to suddenly appear almost 3 years later (if this was an infection from the person he had slept with before) ie insinuating that he has cheated.
I asked my partner if he has cheated on me and he swears blind he hasn’t. He never goes out and doesn’t drink. He’s always either at home, or at work. He had a porn addiction which I uncovered during my pregnancy, which caused us a lot of issues but we have moved on since then, and I haven’t found any porn since.
It’s not confirmed as of yet if my infection is bacterial, or if it’s an STD, but I am obviously upset and questioning things until the proper results come in.
I don’t know what I want from this post, but I was wondering if everyone thinks that cheating is a possibility. His phone has no password on it and he leaves it lying around. I have checked his phone on numerous occasions due to the porn addiction, but haven’t found anything, including no text or social media messages from other women.
If my results come back as an STD, am I right in suspecting he has cheated, or could this be an infection he’s carried since before the relationship? (FYI, I haven’t slept with anyone since our relationship - I am always at home with the children, so it would be pretty impossible anyway - my youngest screams whenever I put him down!)
Sincerely,
a very worried mumsnetter
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To think he’s cheated…
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xxmumof2 · 05/09/2023 13:50
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TheCatterall ·
05/09/2023 15:06
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05/09/2023 17:06
xxmumof2 · 05/09/2023 17:03
I did think it could lay dormant, however she told me it can’t for 3 whole years…
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