Online Dating is a number game!?

[Londdi]

Hey everyone, I’m in my mid 30s and been trying to online date on and off for 3 years. I feel like im happy on my own , but of course I desire to be with partner . I have loads of hobbies, decent job, no big drama. But it’s sooooo hard ! In last 3months I’ve been on about 10 dates (two of them led to date number 2/3), but I feel like every man is just a huge red flag. Most try go to have sex and don’t respect my boundaries, some get really upset when I tell them something made me uncomfortable, some are just terrible communicators…why is it so hard? I tried to take it as a number game and just keep going but it’s so exhausting. The men I’m dating vary in their age, religion, looks, education …it’s not like I have “a type”. I just want someone self aware and nice who respects women. I guess I just wanted to rant. Maybe hear some good stories?!

I have some good stories - been dating for a year or so, been on quite a few dates and mostly just really decent guys who are relaxed and talkative, but just no spark.

Never had anyone try it on sexually, or do anything particularly odd! Don’t know how I’ve managed it. Never had a dick pic either!

Recently met someone who is absolutely lovely, but annoyingly still a bit trauma bonded hung up on his ex, so I’m playing the long game and hoping he’ll get his shit together 😂. But honestly, they can’t all be duds, can they?! She says hopefully…

And when I say stories, I mean, nothing earth shattering but just nice blokes who have taken the end of the ‘relationship’ with good grace. One guy said promise not to settle for anyone who wasn’t worthy of me as I was lovely and deserve someone who knows that. Bless him. Keep thinking maybe I should call him?!

From my understanding OLD seems to be mostly men who want casual or just sex. Whether that's true or not, I dunno as I'm a guy but thats what I've heard and wouldn't be surprised if that is the case.

I dunno how you got the energy to go on ten, lol. They all got red flags, like bad or just circumstances kinda thing?

I mean sure there are genuine guys out there, I think I am and I will at some point likely venture back on OLD but guess if there's a lot of the time wasters hard to find. That and comes down to opinion I guess, you may think they are but I dunno...

@BigPussyEnergy That sounds more genuine to me at least...who knows. Great name btw 🤣

I've been OLD for about 6 weeks now, and have been on 6 first dates during that time. I didn't want to progress to second dates with any of them, as there was no real connection.

Once my current subscriptions end (in 2 weeks time) I'm going to take a break from it. While I appreciate it's a numbers game, I've probably chatted online to hundreds of men, and I'm a bit sick of having the same conversation over and over again, and the ghosting gets tiresome too.

Not sure when I'll rejoin OLD, as I would like to find a partner having been single for 2 years since I left my EXDP and father of my DC. Perhaps I'll meet someone spontaneously in real-life (here's hoping!).