How long until you were completely over a marriage breakup?

[pinknoodles]

I can safely say that it has taken me 6.5 years to get to the point whereby I don't love my ex husband or think of him as much. I know for the last few years I've had to pretend to family and friends that I was toooootttttallly over him, but deep down, my heart was still broken.

How long did it take you, as quite frankly, people who say 'just get over it' or 'move on!' clearly haven't experienced the same thing.

I’ll never be 100% over it. I’m nearly six years on and I still think about him and have regrets.

It took two years for me to feel better, as in not in constant pain.

Quite often I’ll remember something annoying about him and think “Thank fuck I don’t have to live with that any more!”

Two minutes. Actually probably minus two years. I stuck it out for longer than I should have and should never have married my ex. I knew a break up was on the cards but felt like I had to give him and our marriage every opportunity to get back on track but the end was inevitable. On the day we sold our house and handed over the keys he was in tears, I felt nothing but freedom.

One month for every year of marriage. So in my case 30 months to adjust fully.

About 2 and a half years before we actually broke up. The relief was immense.

I don't think I'll ever get over it 100% because I feel so much regret that I couldn't provide a happy family for my children. I don't want him back, but it still makes me feel sad.

Stopping being in love with him before the break.
Stopping loving/hating him two months after the break.
Stopping caring about him about 4 to 6 months after the break.
Stopping getting annoyed by all his crap. Still in progress.
I estimate that about 2 years or so will be te time to get over him. But we will see.

The same as @CuriousPixie it was such a relief to get rid, relax and stop living on my nerves, I stuck it out much longer than I should have "trying" but I was the only one making any effort!
I think it depends on the circumstances, whether Dc's are involved, how badly you have been treated, or if the breakup has come out of the blue perhaps through infidelity, how long it takes you to get over it, I think its a very individual thing.
I also think that regaining your self confidence after a marriage break up can be a difficult thing, I think once you regain that its easier to cope and move forward.