Alcoholic partner

[Gem8701]

Hi all,

So my partner is an alcoholic and has recently relapsed, this has made me feel quite resentful, I do love him but we have argued a lot lately, I feel he gets very defensive over things and struggles to take accountability for things he has done.

No real point in this post - just needed a vent.

:(

If you have any sense you would get rid. His relationship with alcohol is more important than you. You can't fix him.

Venting is all well and good but the underlying problem i.e him remains. He will remain an alcoholic as well for the rest of his days.

You can only help your own self ultimately and that is by getting rid of your alcoholic who neither wants your help and or support. With due respect what can you do to help him?. You cannot love him better.

You are not helping him by staying with him and are further enabling him. This only gives you a false sense of control. You're also confusing love here with codependency.

I have experience of alcoholics and they rarely change. Those that do, usually have to hit rock bottom and this generally involves losing everything. Whilst you stay with him you are technically enabling it (without realising). He's got nothing really to lose at this point by continuing to drink.