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Don't know what to think

10 replies

Northengirl87 · 05/09/2023 11:18

Hi some advice would be much appreciated. I met a great things have been going well, he's kind respectful, consistent with communication, very thoughtful and attentive when we are together. Anyway Sunday morning he messages me first wishing my a lovely day etc then 2 hours later he messages with a sudden family emergency that requires him to travel down south and cancel next date he said he was sorry on the message but sure i will understand and he would keep me posted and I haven't heard anything since. I'm not sure what to think or how handle the situation. I don't want to be a nuisance during a family emergency but I also don't to be strung along either.

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yellowsmileyface · 05/09/2023 11:27

When was your next date supposed to be?

Valid8me · 05/09/2023 11:46

I would think he had a family emergency and had got his mind on other things to be honest. He only told you this on Sunday, its only Tuesday now, I would leave it a few more days.

WandaWonder · 05/09/2023 11:48

Just get on with whatever you are normally doing, if he contacts he does if not move on, sitting there worrying is not going to help

HawdMeBack · 05/09/2023 11:49

It's only been 48hrs. Ad a PP said, I'd leave it a couple more days before contacting him as you don't know what he's dealing with. Nothing about this situation (so far) would suggest he's string ling you along.

HawdMeBack · 05/09/2023 11:50

Stringing

GingerIsBest · 05/09/2023 11:53

How many times have you been out with him/how long have you been dating him? Because if it it's 2 weeks and twice, I'd say this may be that he's stringing you along or it may be that he's got a genuine emergency, but either way, it's unlikely that he's going to be in a good place as either he's a twat or things are a little manic for him.

if it's been a bit longer and he's been consistently good until now, I would be fine with it. I'd probably drop him a text at some point in the next day or so and say I hope everything is okay.

FairytaleOfLancashire · 05/09/2023 11:55

A quick message saying you're thinking of him and you hope everything is OK

Olika · 05/09/2023 12:03

Valid8me · 05/09/2023 11:46

I would think he had a family emergency and had got his mind on other things to be honest. He only told you this on Sunday, its only Tuesday now, I would leave it a few more days.

This.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 05/09/2023 12:33

Give him some space and evidence of the doubt

maybe drop a message mid week to check in how he is

Epidote · 05/09/2023 13:26

If he is saying the truth you will know soon. If he is liying to you you will know soon as well. Give him a couple of days and them ask how is everything going.

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