Stag

[Steph4545]

Hi all just looking for advice my boyfriend is going to Prague on a stag do and I’m just wondering if any of ye has partners that went already and what happened at first I told him no then I felt bad and said he could go but then I started to read things about it where women jump on men for sex that the women are beautiful and it’s all sex my partner has never cheated on me but has lied to me and it’s not the cheating it’s if he does I will never know and anyone on the stag if they tell anyone people will be laughing at me behind my back that’s what bothers me the most I have being there before I don’t trust him he says if I don’t want him to go he won’t it’s booked I will look a right bitch please can anyone help me and be honest please I really appreciate it

You’re not his keeper, seems odd a boyfriend has to ask his girlfriend if he’s allowed to go. If he’s going to cheat on you he can do it in your local town. Yes stag do’s can get a bit out of control, but I guess you have to trust him to behave

As others have said, if he’s going to cheat he can do that anywhere. I don’t think you should be telling him where he can and can’t go, imagine that was reversed.

If you’re not secure take a look at your relationship and at yourself, do you need to work on your self esteem & maybe be single for a while?

It doesn't sound like there's much trust in this relationship. Is there a reason for that? If so, consider a different partner...

if someone I was with wanted to go on stags all the time I wouldn't be with them. I detest the stag culture.
Someone sent me a photo of my ex husband shagging some woman on a stag.

While I was still with him. I never thought he'd betray me like that. But they do.

Hi all I think I have give bad impression it’s not that I’m bossing him we have being together 12 years and have children a person said in the comments imagine if that was reversed to answer that I don’t have to imagine it was we had a family do few years ago and my cousin husband wanted to come home for it I asked him was it ok he said yes no problem it was my daughter confirmation a week before he said he didn’t want him coming home and he wouldn’t go to confirmation if he did so the man had the tickets bought and I had to tell him he couldn’t come but I did that cause my partner comes first it was right thing to do then few months ago I got in to net work market so I come make a bit xtra money as I am stay at home mum there was a conference in England in same city where he lives I hadn’t heard from that man since but just because it was where he lives I couldn’t go so I have up the job cause once again I respected what my partner wants which I felt is right please don’t think I’m a bitch I’m not I always respect what he wants I’m just sick with worry

I’m sorry I came across like a bitch and telling him what to do it’s not like that I didn’t explain properly what I did say was you make the decision what you feel is right and I wouldnt do it to you I have proved that what I mean is my daughter made confirmation two years ago and my cousin has passed away few years ago her husband rang to see could he come on holiday I asked my partner was it ok he said yes so your man booked tickets to come over for confirmation week before confirmation my partner said he wouldn’t come to our daughters confirmation if your man came home so I told him not to come cause I respected my partners decision plus few months ago I got my in to net work marketing to make xtra money as I am a stay at home mum there was a conference in the city where your man lived which is big place but I had not heard from him since telling him not to come home just because it was same city your man lived I wasn’t allowed go so I gave it up cause once again it was right to respect my partner and I always will so to answer the comment about imagine if it was reversed what way would I feel I don’t have to imagine I know I’m just sick with worry I can’t help the way I feel

@Steph4545 It's hard to make sense of your posts. Not being mean, they're just a little difficult to understand. In your last post, are you saying your partner has stopped you from going places you wanted to go to?

With the stag do situation, I wouldn't be concerned about your partner going to Prague. If you trust them, there's really nothing to worry about. Like the PP mentioned, people can cheat anywhere in the world.

If he does ever cheat, thats out of your control. Worrying about a hypothetical situation over and over is never going to change the end result. Trying to control where he goes won't help you or the relationship in the long run.

You are being massively over top

1. The first bit about girls throwing themselves at men for sex etc is laughable, were on earth did you get that from, women in prague are no more likely to chuck themselves at a man than you or any of your friends are
2. he has given you absolutely no reason that he would even if oppurtunity arose

It sounds like your partner is controlling towards you so you think it’s ok to try to control him too - and you don’t trust him so there’s really no point in being together

Did you really write all that with no punctuation at all? I’d need the enigma code to decipher that.

What?