How to sleep with people?!

[spartanrunnergirl]

Literally sleep. I live alone, previous relationship started in double bed, moved to separate rooms due to snoring etc. I'm in a great relationship and I'd love my DP to stay over sometimes, but I just cannot sleep, every move in the bed wakes me up. He doesn't really snore, he's really considerate, and I'd love to wake up in the mornings with him, but not after a terribly broken night sleep where my day feels like I've have the worst hangover I'm so sleep deprived.

Any tips for this? I use earplugs already.

A bigger bed would be the main one - I have a super king and now really struggle to sleep in a double with another person.

I think it's actually practise. I'm a very light sleeper and I've only been able to "train" myself to not wake up when a partner moves by dint of just forcing myself to sleep next to them for a few months.

Single 10 years now and ocassional overnights with people - I just accept I'm going to have a crap night's sleep but the trade-off is some great sex 😆

Sleep is a solitary activity. Other people in your bed are nothing but an annoyance - and you annoy them too. Sleeping alone is the only real answer.

Ha yes I do get that pay off! I find too that if we are away on holiday my sheer exhaustion after first couple of nights gets me asleep but it not sustainable.

Is it simply being disturbed by noise/movement, or is it more psychological (i.e. you're not sleeping as deeply because you're not fully relaxed)?

I struggle with this too, although none of the fuckers hang around long enough for it to really be an issue.

A double bed is way too small! It's alright if you're staying over somewhere but otherwise a king or preferably a super king so you can get into a different time zone.

You need a really big bed (king sized as a minimum), some really good sex (to help you nod off) and lots of practise sleeping with him being next to you all night. Once a week so you only have one night of bad sleep at a time.

I used to have the worst insomnia, which I thought was me being an insomniac. Turns out it was my ex-husband, his snoring, smell and irritating ways that were preventing me getting to and staying asleep. I have a lovely, clean and (generally) non-snoring man in my life now and I sleep really well next to him.

I find sleeping in a double bed with a single quilt each helps loads. You feel freer to move without it affecting the other person so you just relax more.