Bit of background. Separated for 3 years after 17 year marriage. Divorce being finalised. 2 DCs - DD 13, DS 9. ex-H was emotionally abusive to both me and DD (blame, anger, gaslighting etc etc). He's been seeing a therapist and is trying to change his ways, however he's still highly emotional and has regular outbursts over the smallest things, including shouting at the kids (or breaking down crying) for no good reason.
In an effort to protect the kids from all his nonsense, I've managed so far to limit contact to 1 day per weekend and 2-3 evenings per week. Those evenings happen at my house as the kids won't go to his house. I'll usually go out or make myself scarce. The kids feel way more comfortable at home.
He's now frustrated with this arrangement and threatening to pursue 50/50 through the courts. I've told him they don't want to stay at his place and he said he won't force them - "I just want 50/50, if they don't come then it's up to them." So why is he going to fight me for 50/50 if he isn't fussed about enforcing it? Does he think he'll get 50/50 of our assets (current agreement is 65/35 to me as most of our assets were brought to the marriage by me anyway, plus I've gone part-time for the kids and not going to claim spousal maintenance). A new woman is whispering in his ear these days and I think he's a puppet (muppet) on a string...Any ideas anyone?