Meeting somebody late 30s

[aspoonfulofcoulda]

I'm 36 and have been single for a few years now... I just have a sinking feeling that I'm never going to meet somebody. The apps are helpless, I have a good social and work circle but it's just not happened for me. Can anybody give me a bit of light and share stories of when you did meet somebody in your late 30s and it worked out.. and how you met? Facing a life alone is not something I can think about right now. Thank you

Plenty of time.

OLD as horrible but it is can work. I do feel sorry for women though as you have to sift through a lot of crap.

OLD for me is like a full time job. If you're not pro-active then what's the point. Wait for the deals e.g Tinder is always giving me £14 membership for a month. Hinge seems fairly decent.

It is a numbers game to a certain degree, but go for what you are looking for. I set up a 7 to 14 day rule of making arrangements to meet, in fact I'd shorten that and want a date arranged within a week at least. I'm not there to talk for weeks on end and you never know until you meet someone.

If I'm in the apps I'm on the apps and don't mess around waiting for days and days for a response.

Set up your own rules and stick to them, be clear and they can work for you.

I'm 46 soon. It really is harder to meet people as you get older. Apart from OLD you're either going to have to be bold and ask people out or have a massively active social life doing so many different group activities regularly.

I met my DH online dating 9 years ago. I was 35 he was 38, we moved in with each other 2 years into our relationship and got married last year.
I was on the verge of deleting the app when I noticed his picture and thought.. one more try.
He was also considering deleting his account after some disaster dates. My first message to him said " I like your picture my phone number is * let's talk and if you're free we could meet at the pub on Saturday"
Very forward I know but it bagged me a good one!

I met my DH when I was 37, we got engaged a year later, married 9 months from that and fell pregnant 8 months from that. It's definitely not too late for you. I did take my online dating like a second job though and some weekends I met with two men during one day. Kept moving on and saying no to lots of men no matter how into me they were. By the time I met my now DH I had done all the mistakes one could do with online dating so I was in a great place to know what kind of man I was looking for. I didn't fancy DH whatsoever on the first dates, but there was a mental connection. And it just grew from there to now being married with the most gorgeous DD.

Met my H at a pub quiz when I was 36. Asked him out one night and he never went home. Together 22 years. Keep on being out there - BUT I would say don't spend your time looking. I was v happily single (with various one or more night stands for fun) and had no intention of letting a man live with me. But suddenly it was the right one. I think if I hadn't been so comfortable in my own life, I might not have noticed or realised this though.

I met my husband OLD. I was really specific about my requirements and I told the matches so...I actually met my husband very quickly. We met 2020 when I was 34, married 2021, baby 2022 and next baby coming 2023. I wouldn't give up!

I'm about the same age as you. It's so difficult to see men my own age let alone meet them. Most of them as busy with families and the others ones might be spending their weekends doing very active sports like biking, climbing or they might be at the gym.

I get sad about it because I chose to leave my ex. He had strengths but I had so many issues with the relationship and no longer fully trusted him. I also think he would have found the chaos of small children to be more difficult than average, and I envisioned having to spend family days out alone without him, or having to soothe him and his moods as well as the kids'.

I ready that you are not keen on going it alone. Neither am I. Babies are not just blank slates that you can manipulate with the right upbringing. Women who have babies via sperm doner have no idea what the father's personality is, and the child could turn out just like him, and that is a particular problem when it comes to single mum and sons.

I tried Hinge but it was a total waste of time. Didn't find hardly any of the men to be attractive, interesting or nice sounding.

I'm early 40s. My relationship broke down in 2020. I tried online dating in 2022, sometimes I had two dates in a day. Kissed everyone who wanted to kiss me. Some were frogs. One was allright so I almost went on the third date with him but decided to go on a first date with a guy who lived a bit closer before going back to guy no. 1. Needless to say, I never went back. It's going great even though we will never have kids together. I just met him too late for that. But it is possible. We would have never met in real life but that's what OLD is for.