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Wait for relationship counselling

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fghj149 · 04/09/2023 11:18

Hi MN, so this morning things have got to the point in my marriage where I think we need relationship counselling or I will walk away as H’s behaviour in arguments is really hard to deal with. No physical/sexual abuse but emotional stuff/gaslighting. Really in my honest opinion it’s my H that needs counselling for the way he can be, but we’ve spoken about it in the past and although he’s agreed, he won’t do it without me.

Has anyone got any recommendations of who to contact? I live in Scotland and can see there is an equivalent charity to Relate called Relationships Scotland which looks good. I am wondering has anyone on here done relationship counselling recently/in the process and able to give an idea of how long waiting times are for an appt? TIA x

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 04/09/2023 11:23

Joint counselling is never recommended where there is abuse of any type within the relationship and you've cited both emotional and pyschological abuse in the form of gaslighting. You are absolutely not emotionally safe enough to go into such sessions. He will in all likelihood try and manipulate the counsellor into taking his side whilst berating you further also making such sessions a waste of time.

Contact this organisation instead and plan your exit from your abuser very carefully

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