Anyone wonder why they bother staying together?

[WhyTryAnymore]

He doesn't seem to ever want to spend time with us (me or the children).

Never wants to leave the house or go out and do anything.

Just wants to sit and watch downloads on the computer.

I am 99% sure he is depressed, but won't go for help. I am now feeding him st john's wort as a desperate attempt for something to change.

He says he loves us still and wants to be with us.

I'm not very loving towards him anymore because I am just tired. Tired of feeling rejected. Tired of feeling like a single mum. He does do things (puts them to bed etc), but it is normally because I have asked/told him to. There is no us, it is never mummyanddaddy, just either/or.

I am depressed. I don't know if it is because I see him so low and it hurts not being able to fix him.

I am just at the stage now of why bother to keep on. Maybe I would be better off on my own, with the hopes of finding a man who wants to be with us some time in the future.

I love him. But I don't want to be alone any more.

That sounds very hard on you. Does he have a history of depression or has there been some change in his circumstances that might have led to his sinking into depression?

Was going to reply , but just got your text

im sorry,i cant offer any advice,i can only say that your post could have been written by me,except that my dh plays an onlime game all the time.

i feel your pain

It used to be online games, but he has even lost heart in that. He's miserable at work but can't see any way clear, money is always tight which worries him, and he hates us renting (I've gotten over that now, so it doesn't bother me). No history of depression. Add into that his friends going AWOL (no idea why, they just started going out without inviting him - I think they got sick of us always being skint, so not able to contribute to group presents (about £20 a time), and having to find babysitters etc (all single))

I am much much less down today and it doesn't seem like such a dire no way out situation.

I do feel horribly guilty though - he has gone through depression with me over the years, and yet I am struggling to do it for him.

Why dont you move here, he can work with dh

Aww, I would love to be near you, and DH would love that kind of job... but I start rocking in a corner after about 2 days in London area, plus I am oddly close to my mum and I'm not sure how well I'd cope living that far away

Shame there is no way to do a few months trial run without completely screwing up DD

Ah, but we're not really in London, we're almost suburban Cant do much about your Mum tho!