AIBU to be getting the ick here?

[bubblesandbathwater]

Some background. Split with my ex-DH a year ago. Didn't date or anything for 6 months as we share a young family and I wanted to focus on that.

Started dating the past few months, I've met a few guys (thru OLD) but nothing has progressed past the first date. The men I have met have wanted to meet again but I haven't felt that spark or that I had anything in common with them.

Then was in a short "situationship" with someone who I knew already... he was the stereotypical headf*ck and it eventually ended after a couple of months, which was a good thing...

Since then have been on a couple more dates but I'm finding that finding someone who I feel that energy with, just difficult.

I've met with a guy twice now, he's sweet and very complimentary but also things he says over text I find a bit silly and give me the ick. An example; after we met on Thursday I was seeing friends that evening and he said "have you told your friends how you saw the love of your life today?"
Then today we were chatting about the weather and he said he was out in the sun and I said I hope he didn't get burnt and he said "you want to rub after sun into me don't you" he's also made comments about how he'd love it if I wore a pink mini dress on our dates and that he could come round and "show me some fun"
I get that flirty banter is fun, and if I'm in a sexual relationship with someone I'm all for it, but I find it a bit off putting so early on.

Besides that he's sweet, wants to arrange next date, interested in my life etc... but I just feel put off by some of this stuff.

He's also living at home with his parents following a marriage breakdown and sees his children only every other weekend and one weekday on the next which is off putting to me; being on the other side of a similar situation, although I don't know all of the details of course...

Is it me? Am I being too precious and a prude? Is this what the dating world is now? I was sheltered in married life for 14 years so maybe I'm out of touch?

Also take no bloody notice of people saying don’t date your whole life should revolve around your kids 🙄. It’s normal to want to have someone to share your life with and dating is absolutely bloody normal, even as a single parent. Go for it, keep having fun.

I don't think anyone has said that have they?

No one has said she shouldn't date just that a year is quite a short amount of time to start worrying about it and that she shouldn't settle for someone and it might take some time to meet someone she really wants to be with.

That's all true whether you have children or not.

I'm living at my parents at the moment after being married over a decade and I'm currently going through custody battle. However, my wife has literally taken everything, including our children and won't let me see them. It's not where I would like to be but I have no option...sucks.

However, even if I did manage to get my children back I would be parenting them, I wouldn't expect a woman I was seeing to take over down the line.

That guy, though, no. He's coming across like a wrongun, avoid I would say.

I would say, trust your instincts. Always!