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Original poster

My boyfriend said he doesn't love me as much as he used to

11 replies

changewillcome · 03/09/2023 18:59

We've been through a tough few months, arguing and generally not getting on well, however there has been good times as well.
He said last night he doesn't love me as much as he used to but wants to try.
He then said you feel the same as me anyway.
I'm a bit stumped tbh. Thoughts?

OP posts:
NotaCoolMum · 03/09/2023 19:01

How long have you been together?

NuffSaidSam · 03/09/2023 19:03

Does he mean that the intense love of the early relationship has faded and been replaced by a more everyday, stable love?

Or he's just not enjoying being in the relationship as much anymore?

Original poster
changewillcome · 03/09/2023 19:07

I think because things have been difficult that's how he feels.
We've been together for four years

OP posts:
Shootin · 03/09/2023 21:23

Have a break from each other.
Is he depressed?

Livelifelaughter · 04/09/2023 12:18

I think it's a prelude to breaking up... protect your heart.

pikkumyy77 · 04/09/2023 12:54

Its a trial balloon. He is looking for a way out.

Malapataraso · 04/09/2023 23:58

OK, not loving someone as much as you used to isn’t a thing. He’s trying to tell you he doesn’t love you anymore but he’s trying to soften the blow because that’s way harsh.

What could that possibly mean, that his love is less but not gone? That’s so not a thing!

He doesn’t love you anymore and he wants you to break up with him because he’s too much of a little shit to do it himself.

Mycatisthebestever · 05/09/2023 00:00

I agree - he wants to break up.

Livelifelaughter · 05/09/2023 10:33

Malapataraso · 04/09/2023 23:58

OK, not loving someone as much as you used to isn’t a thing. He’s trying to tell you he doesn’t love you anymore but he’s trying to soften the blow because that’s way harsh.

What could that possibly mean, that his love is less but not gone? That’s so not a thing!

He doesn’t love you anymore and he wants you to break up with him because he’s too much of a little shit to do it himself.

Sadly for OP I think you're right

billy1966 · 05/09/2023 10:55

Time to break up.

He's not feeling it anymore.

It happens.

Best to break up and move on.

You are wasting your time with him.

Let him go and move on.

coloursquare · 05/09/2023 10:57

Time to break up. Sorry OP.

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