I'm not sure if I'm reading this wrong but I'm quite confused by one of my friends.
We attended a place together as teenagers and were both abused and both were impacted quite badly on a long term basis.
My friend struggled for a few years with a trauma bond with the abuser (she found it very hard to see him as "bad" and often minimised the abuse and even defended him a lot).
That caused a rift between us at the time as it made me feel ill and more traumatised to hear this kind of thing.
She eventually acknowledged it all and no longer has the trauma bond and we became close again , but she seems to have some sort of Stockholm syndrome for the place we were when it happenned.
How this works is that she views it through abnormally exaggerated rose-tinted glasses and sings it praises and says she misses it.
She's characterised it as "happy" and "safe" when it was the complete opposite of those things. She doesn't recognise a lot of the "good times" were basically being groomed.
She also get really angry and defensive if this place is criticised. Even for something unrelated. Almost like she feels it belongs to her and no one can dare say it wasn't great.
What is this?
I find it really upsetting!