Love and lust in your 70s

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Regular poster, nc, researching info for my dad who isn't confident online (and who has gone down some alarming rabbit holes on this topic!)

He's a perfectly presentable, single, straight chap in his late 70s, sociable, fit and healthy, and active. He would like a relationship, or a fwb, or maybe just someone to meet for some adult fun.

He's tried OLD, but his age means he is rejected every time, as people make assumptions, even with a good recent photo.

Is there an OLD site specially for older people? He would ideally like to meet someone 70-75 - actually the age isn't important, it's the joie de vivre he's interested in. Or a club he could join - actual or virtual? I don't know if he'd do swinging, he might (as you can imagine, these discussions are a bit delicate with me being his daughter!), so any suggestions on that front would also be interesting. Or anything else you can suggest? We're in the rural NW (UK).

He's not desperate, he's good company and got plenty of friends, he's just looking for something more intimate.

I've not used this, but stumbled across it a long time ago: Date My Age dating app - I know you said he's tried apps but gets turned down due to his age, but I wonder if this one might be more successful for him given the premise?

For meeting people more broadly in person, and of course it could lead to something else, there is always meetup.com

I wish him success OP!

You say he's sociable???

Where is he socialising?? There must be dozens of widows around him bearing in mind that men usually die you get. I'm absolutely astonished he hasn't got anyone. He should be beating them off with a stick lol.

Is he solvent?

Men usual die younger that should say

My late grandad found his second wife in the ballroom dancing class at the local community centre.

we didn’t have to do anything for him to find someone. He did it himself.

Your Dad is discussing with you his desire to have a FWB or swinging?

A friend of ours of a similar age to OP's DF separated from his DW recently and was looking to buy an apartment in a naice block. As soon as he went to view he found himself meeting the neighbours, a steady stream of well preserved widows keen to get to know him better.

It's definitely a seller's market out there. get him out into the community, perhaps volunteering?

My late father’s wife met my dad & her current husband on Saga holidays. She was around 40 when she met my dad and widowed in her 70s.

Community choir and dance lessons.

I've met people of all ages through these including 70something men who sound just like your dad.

People who are sociable and like doing stuff ae generally found being sociable and doing stuff.

Meet Up groups. I found there were very few men and lots of single women. They're not specifically dating but socialising is a good start.

This 😳

This!!!

My late father in law went to a lunch club at a local church and used to keep us amused with his tales of avoiding all the ladies!

He should go on an all inclusive cruise, lots of older ladies there, or as others have said, join a choir, take up dancing, hill walking, wild swimming.

I'd be cringing inside and out if my dad asked me for advice about his love life though.

Ha ha yes he IS talking to me about it but only because he needs help with the web stuff...but we don't actually "discuss" any of it, he just said would I help him find another more useful OLD agency than the ones he has tried and I said I would, and then he said "and actually if I find something that's just about the fun bit that's ok too"...I'm only going to give him the names of websites and then what he does after that I REALLY don't want to know 😂!

Despite his age he's quite an open-minded chap, and yes solvent, and he scrubs up well...part of the difficulty is that he feels that several of the ladies he's met the same age as him behave much older than he does...because I said the same as @tescocreditcard, he should be beating them off with a stick!

We have been through some tough times together over the years, and he has been there for me during my recent divorce (I wouldn't have got through it without him), so it's only fair that I return the favour; I would love to see him settled and happy, he did have a lovely girlfriend for a long time but she became obsessed with her pets and now won't ever go anywhere or do anything because of them, so he gave up on it.

Thanks for all the ideas, I'll send them on to him, he has just started volunteering at a wildlife place which seems to be going well, so you never know!