nc For this as regular mn user! I’ve been with my partner 10 years this year 3 children, 8,5 and 9 weeks.
Throughout the relationship there’s been some signs but cos he’s never been physical I just brushed it off. Like he will do it seems punish me with stuff that he knows makes me upset or he will threaten me with stuff
ie if the sex doesn’t get better or improve I will leave you for someone else etc.
were away right now visiting his family and it’s so awkward. We was going to bed the other night and all day he’d been saying when we get into bed we could have a cuddle and stuff as we don’t get to do it usually at home as we don’t always share the same bed. Bedtime come and he flips saying he isn’t cuddling doesn’t want to and I said oh ok why is that and he said I’m ducking tired leave me alone and I said oh ok just was looking forward to it but no worries. He then called me a stupid fat cunt for keeping him awake for 5 minutes. Ever since then he has been so horrible. Belittling me and just being a complete cunt. He said it’s cos I kept him up so he’s gonna ne horrible to me and treat me with no respect cos that’s what I do to him. It isn’t at all and he knows it. But the atmosphere has been dreadful. I spent most of the day yesterday in tears trying to hide from my kids which failed cos it’s a small house they could clearly see id been crying as could my neices.
my brother and sister in law yesterday had an almighty row and she said she thinks it’s cos he can feel the tension in the air with me and my partner but that’s not my fault. I was crying infront of him talking to my brother and sister in law about how I felt and how he was calling me names and stuff all for being kept up for 5 minutes and he just yawned loudly. Their dad was very physically and emotionally abusive to them and their mum throughout their childhood which is why I think he’s like it (his bro is similar) but surely seeing how his mum is they wouldn’t be?
My sister in law has told him how much of an arsehole he’s being but he doesn’t care in his head his punishing me cos I kept him awake for 5 minutes and he said he’s going to be distant and act single and I was ‘warned’ apperently whatever that means.
im literally sitting up now crying my eyes out because the baby woke up and where I’m so tired I was like hi * why are you awake again silly as it felt like I’d only fed him an hour ago and he said you think you know everything your a stupid cunt he got fed 3 hours ago that’s why he’s awake your so dumb and I said oh ok sorry didn’t realise the time and he said check 1st moron. He’s telling me to shut the fuck uo crying it’s a stupid sound and I’m a cry baby. I think I already know the answer but even if I just had people to talk to I feel so alone and I hate myself ☹️ maybe it is my fault he’s doing it?