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Husband left me but doesn't see children

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Kitcat122 · 03/09/2023 00:05

My husband left me 6 months ago for another woman. I have tried for the sake of our 4 children to be amicable even though I am devastated. However, he doesn't even show any interest in seeing or speaking to our children. I feel so sad for them as he has always been a good dad. But now it's just all about OW. If he arranges to see them, suddenly he cancels. It's got to the point where they haven't seen him for nearly 6 weeks.

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Theimpossiblegirl · 03/09/2023 00:52

That's really shit. Poor kids. And poor you having to deal with his betrayal and now watching him let his kids down.
Make sure you are getting child maintenance. Get a legal agreement in place if you don't already. He sounds the type to take zero responsibility.

Imogensmumma · 03/09/2023 01:01

He’s a disgraceful vermin! Bad enough to cheat and leave for another woman but to not see your kids it’s disgusting and the fact you can’t say he’s a dick to the kids makes it worse you have to be all nice when you don’t want to…. I’m so sorry you are having to deal with this

Make sure you are getting maintenance and UC if you can

Big hugs

Naunet · 03/09/2023 09:20

Those poor kids. He’s absolute scum, I personally would stop being nice to him and tell him what a self prick he is and ask if he ever actually loved his children, because right now, he’s abandoned them and isn’t giving a flying fuck about the impact on him. He needs to know his dick isn’t the centre of the universe.
Awful, awful man.

Crafthead · 08/12/2023 16:15

That's enough to make me feel sad for the new gf.
My ex was a bit of a rubbish dad & now the (grown up) kids say, on one of their multiple weekly visits to my plslace, things like "dad wants to visit but I cba with him". Which is somewhat gratifying, although also tragic.

mrandmrsrobinson · 08/12/2023 18:11

He's pussy whipped.

She'll be kicking off every time he wants to see the kids but will cancel to keep the peace with her.

And he should be filled with guilt because of it. It will turn into a resentment of her.......

CallmePaul · 08/12/2023 18:18

What an arse! I just can't understand how anyone could be like that, the poor kids, so damaging for them.

Please though as much as you might hate him, try to not let the kids feel it or voice it in front of them, pal of mine utterly hates his ex wife & her him, the kids are so messed up with it all.

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