Is there anyone out there that has never been chatted up/hit on

[Beanscene]

Going for a unusual thread here, I see a lot of chat about unwanted attention from men... catcalling/jeering etc.... Which sounds horrendous. But is there anyone out there like me that has never experienced this? 🤔

I was once chatted up when I was 16 by my first boyfriend, after that nothing. I chased DH, so wasn’t chatted up there either.

Yeah, I'm unattractive and I know it. So do men. Suits me fine.

Surely being chatted up and being cat called and jeered at are 2 very different things? I used to go clubbing a lot and often got chatted up or chatted people up - that's just what happens in a club. If you don't talk to anyone how do you get to know anyone? Getting chatted up IRL is a thousand times better than the crappy dating apps that seem to have replaced it IMO.

Cat calling and chatting up are two ENTIRELY different things.
The first is a show of power and hatred by men who at best think it's hilarious.
The second is a genuine attempt to at least hook up.
I've had way too much of the first and NO it isn't flattering.
Sometimes the second can badly miss the mark (e.g. married man thinks you'd be up for it) and sometimes it can be lovely flirting at the start of a relationship. I'm not very good at recognising flirting which does save you from the inappropriate type!

Am not advocating catcalling etc etc... in any way as awful and abusive.... but just curious as to why some women get it and some don't. I suppose I was chatted up once wayyyyyyy back when I was in my early 20s..... But that was literally that one time and memory is fuzzy🤣.

Never been chatted up, unwanted attention nothing. I can meet guys off tinder or fab swingers etc but they only ever want a one time thing then never hear from them again

Well, I’m waaayyy past being chatted up now, but yes, I got chatted up, that’s how you met people in those far off days before the internet! How else would you have got know someone! Many happy marriages started at being chatted up 😉

If they're good looking it's flirting, if they're ugly it's harassment.

I think it is to do with the way you look, people will say it isn’t but it is, I got chatted up all the time pretty much daily then I got fat and it changed completely and never happens ever now. I’m basically invisible now.

I witnessed a woman flirting with a man on the train yesterday it was pretty funny to watch actually; she kept stroking her hair then asked him who his flowers were for, turned out it was for his girlfriend…

Never been chatted up or had any unwanted attention.