Financial abuse re lawyer please help!

[PrimarkLover]

Does anyone know the formal name / description of financial abuse when your ex wastes as much of your solicitor's time as is humanely possible? My exH (who I am divorcing, plus there is child custody stuff going on) sends my solicitor ridiculous emails asking for clarification of basic things, tells her he is reporting her to the law society, pretends he doesn't know what she means, cc's her into emails she doesn't need to be included in, etc. etc. He even emailed her to criticise her grammar and spelling mistakes!

i am sure he is doing it to make me spend more money as when he emails her or she emails him, it costs ME money. He is a litigant in person so he's not racking up any lawyers fees whereas I am! I can't afford to have a lawyer for much longer as all this time wasting is eating into my savings! When we were at court we didn't seek costs but is there any other way to recoup some of this? Thank you x

I think you need to explain what you have said here to your solicitor.

I'd also instruct her not to forward on the petty stuff to you, and for her not to respond to him on the irrelevant stuff to help manage it.

I'd also explore about seeking costs with her too.

My ex had so much money that I ended up LIP because I couldn’t afford to keep spending on unnecessary letters. Your solicitor doesn’t have to respond to everything, I would have a chat with your solicitor

LIP was the best decision I ever made and represented myself in court on numerous occasions (however this was child arrangements)

I would not dare have represented myself in divorce proceedings regarding assets

Could you possibly stop having the solicitor and therefore he would have to send all emails to you. If there was actually anything requiring legal input you could ask/pay your solicitor for it on an ad hoc basis, perhaps on a fortnightly/monthly basis you could collate all the relevant legal questions and send it to them.

Instruct your solicitors not to respond to unnecessary trivia. Put those instructions in writing and give a couple of examples of things not to respond to that she has in the past.

Most solicitors are used to this cost accruing exercise. It's up to you to instruct us how to deal with it, if at all

Hi, I’m in the same situation. My STBXH has binned his second solicitor, and is making my costs much higher.

A simple yes/no question on my part resulted in a three page letter from him to my solicitor which she described as rambling and illogical.

Im thinking I also need to tell her to not respond to the irrelevant and petty stuff.

He did it regarding selling the family marital home. (he was living in it, I was renting)

Asked if I was happy to sell it, was I happy to let him chose the estate agent, decide on selling price etc etc. I replied yes,yes, yes and asked to be kept informed by emails. We had agreed all this 6months previously, so I didn’t understand why he was going through it all again.

Then two weeks later, says he’s not selling and is staying put. The back and forth emails cost me just over £600 for my solicitor.

I spent £2k last summer because he was so difficult and obtuse. My solicitor has been quite good at ignoring some of the more obviously time-wasting emails but at the moment he has a letter from her to send to the estate agents which I do not have; I have asked him to send me a copy as he is refusing to do it himself - he is insisting that I get a copy from her. Our divorce (finances etc. not that we has much!) is now finalised thank goodness but he is just dragging his feet deliberately and being absolutely hateful.

I'm so sorry that has happened to you. It is absolutely crazy how much the back and forth of emails adds up to. It's so blatant as well...