i want to leave him but im to scared....

[theboob]

i dont feel the same about him anymore ,he is mean and violent(not to me,he breaks things in temper)he goes out drinking and spends every penny we have,he wants us to move into a pub (new job for him)but know if i do i'll be setting myself up for a life of misery,but i am so frightened

maybe so,he drinks 2 times a week,he cant see it as a problem
i will try it just in case everthing works out,had chat with friends i will put money to the side just in case, that way i will not feel so scared at the thought of being alone,i will go if this move turns out to be a bad one,i have no savings at the moment,thanks shewillbeloved,i hope it works out too,he is a fantastic father and they adore him,i'm keeping my fingers crossed

I think it's smart to save money without him knowing at this point. But don't kid yourself...children are smarter than we think. They know what is happening. I also agree with you that drinking is an illness...but it's an illness that will not just be fixed...people need professional help getting over that illness.