When you’ve lost trust

[Bertiebananas]

Have you ever lost trust in a relationship? Did you get it back or was it gone forever?

DH totally distanced himself from me a year or so ago - no affair but intimacy completely stopped, total shut down, said we should split up, weren’t right for each other etc. Anyway now he wants to stay together but I’m finding it really hard to trust again… we have kids so I feel I should try but I don’t know when it will begin to feel ‘real’ again…

Run a mile -he shuts down without an explanation or discussion? That's cruel. May be no affair but emotionally checked out. At the very least go to couples counselling and get to the bottom of it, then decide what you want to do. Good luck OP

Thank you- well there was an explanation but it was that he wasn’t happy in the relationship. It did feel cruel at the time and I think I’ve taken a step back to be able to stay sane… now I’m confused.

Yes and time helps but sometimes it can go so far it might not come back

Thanks @Annaishere it does feel that way at the moment but I guess time will tell