Left him because of another woman

[Icycloud]

there has been a woman who’s been flirting with my boyfriend and using a high pitched tone when she talks to him and acting cute. Which would have been fine if he didn’t engage but I realised he liked the attention. And she’d got her foot in the door as she was trying to get closer with him by talking about things he loves and she was doing it in front of my face as well which infuriated me. I actually got the courage to confront her and told her I know what she’s doing and told her to stop, she denied everything and started insulting me like she was right and pretended to be gay, she definitely isnt, even he said she isn’t gay. I left to cool down and found out through a mutual friend who was there that she had been bitch talking me for it and he joined in. So I publicly left him because actually he allows this to happen and I should never have to feel jealous or undermined, I feel like I did the right thing, she can have him

The pair of them have been saying among us all that they’re not flirting but all our mutual friends say they are acting cute and to cut it out, so I know I’m not being crazy

Are you 14?

Oh fuck off

Perfectly reasonable question. What's acting all cute? 🤣this all sounds so pathetic

You did the right thing. He showed you no respect and sounds like he openly encouraged this woman’s attentions. He sounds terrible.

Stay firm and give them no more of your energy. Don’t speak about it with mutual friends, just move on.

You do sound very young, your bf sounds young, immature and not very nice if he’s going to “bitch talk” about you behind your back. You’re well rid of him and the simpering girl. No matter what your age, no one likes being treated badly.

@Icycloud Were you at some sort of event when you argued with her then 'publicly left him'?

You don’t sound young at all, women on mumsnet love to be patronising and kick a women when she is down, turn all the negative attention on to her instead of seeing that the man is to blame here and the point of the post.

You did the right thing, he doesn’t have your back and is happy for you to look a fool to others. Don’t go back, you can find someone better.

Acting cute and bitch talk are turn of phrases commonly used throughout pockets of regions within the U.K.

Even though people speak English, phrases, words and even meanings (like “hello duck” not calling a person a actual duck, it’s a term of affection) range, develop and also evolve throughout the U.K. at different rates and within different locations. For those of you who are too simple to see outside your own experiences, box, life. Hope that helps.

(Yes, it was meant to be as patronising as the previous posters, incase you missed it).

I say go with your gut instinct. If they are flirting and then bitching about you then you are better off without. Much less drama!

I'm guessing publicly leaving him means you did it via SM? If so, he got his just deserts. There's better for you out there, it's reasonable not to tolerate that.