Finding out your husband's cheating via Moonpig

[TheAverageJoanne]

Amusing as it sounds it's not funny, this has happened to my cousin. She's had a card in the post saying that her husband is sending messages and intimate pictures to a few women and to be alert. Her husband owns a construction company and works away a lot so she thinks it's more than pictures though she's not said anything. Can Moonpig release the details of the sender? It's a situation I've never heard of (using Moonpig that is to do something like this).

They won’t release it because of GDPR. She needs to do some digging.

Doubt it. GDPR surely.

They simply are not allowed to do that. And how would they know that he has a partner/wife and what her name is, to send it to?

Ah, I think I misunderstood. It's not moonpig that sent the card. But she wants them to send her the information?

No they wont As a PP said though. Do some digging. Look for another phone. Check bank statements.

Not worth asking as no they will not release the details.

She wants to know who used Moonpig to send it yes. I can believe there's something in it because he's a Jack the lad type I've never really cared for. She's beautiful and has brought up two children and works for the company. It could have come from anywhere this is what's driving her crazy.

She should sit him down, show her the card and ask to see his phone to reassure her non of this is true..
If he reacts badly / refuses, it is.

This is why I really don't understand when people say to tell someone anonymously.

I'd want to know but I'd also have questions amd ones I'd be more likely to get from a 'messenger' than the source!

They clearly want to be kept out of it though.

No, Moonpig won't release any details. But I'd be taking it seriously if someone went to this effort.

TBH her focus needs to be on her husband and starting to dig, not worrying about who sent the card. I’d be grateful to them and turn my attention where it needs to be and starting looking at what he’s up to.

Your poor cousin.

There is no point asking him as he’s just going to gaslight her. There is no smoke without fire. She needs to get her detective work in gear. If I was her I’d hire a private detective otherwise she’s just going to drive herself crazy wondering. It’s most definitely true as someone has gone to a lot of effort to let her know. Someone obviously feels very sorry for her.

Bloody hell this is horrible!

What's her gut telling her?
Does he have any enemies or new fall outs?
I agree with pp though, there is no smoke without fire and if she asks him he will just gaslight.
I don't agree with snooping unless it's a situation like this! Can she get access to his emails and phone?

I think there's no smoke too. I don't know about making enemies, but he is rather annoying.

It's been a few months and she's not said anything but is keeping her powder dry as she puts it. Today's his birthday and one of his friends has posted Happy Birthday Shsgalot (and then his name). He's up to no good I'm sure of it.