Is this normal friendship?

[Mayaunni]

My husband and i are married for 10 years. Both of us are working in same company but different departments.Yesterday from one of my friend i found out that my husband is chatting with some girl from other department.My friend accidentally saw their chat(they are roommates)
I asked him about this and he told they are just friends.But they are messaging about each and everything happening on daily basis. They are sending so many messages in a day like what they were doing, where they are going, what they are eating like everything (he even asked her whether she took a shower)but nothing sexual. I found this is strange but my husband is telling me this is very normal and he is behaving like i am some toxic person trying to stop him from having friends.I told him stop messaging her like this and he doesn’t want to stop. We are not checking each other’s phone and don’t even know the passwords. Al these are told by my friend and when i asked him he admitted. Am I really the toxic person? Friendship like this is really normal?

I wouldn't be happy in your shoes. And it's not being "toxic" to wonder why your husband is suddenly talking non stop with another woman. Making a friend is one thing. This level of intense communication is not right.

He did the same thing with another woman 2 years ago. I saw their chat that time. Hundreds of messages and calls in a day. Again nothing sexual. She moved out of country and I don’t know they are still chatting as i am not checking his phone. He strongly disagree to me checking his phone and he is not checking mine. So i cannot say anything

No that's not normal behaviour. He's trying to make you feel bad for querying it. If it's the second time I don't think I would want to stay with him. I can't see the attraction of messaging a married man. I presume his colleague is aware...

No. Not a normal friendship.

None of my male friends would asked of I'd showered for a start and I wouldn't tell tell them.

He was thinking about her naked. The messages might not he sexual but it sounds like they are flirty.

No not normal friendship and him implying you are some toxic person for being unhappy about the tone of these "friendships" just lays his guilty intentions towards them bare.

No, definitely not normal. How do you think he would feel if you were chatting to a man all day long telling him all about your daily life and even when you were having a bath? Of course he doesn't want you to look at his phone, he wants to keep enjoying his flirty conversations.