I went through extended intimate partner emotional abuse with infidelity. It was a suprise in that I felt very secure and safe in the relationship with a very high level of confidence. I was suprised by shocking infidelity and subsequent extended emotional abuse and cruelty.
Post abuse, I am really struggling with my new partner as well as generally in life and I'm going to try EDMR.
I want to come up with a set of statements surrounding intimate relationships that I want to begin to feel are "true".
For example, I'd like to feel that I am generally safe, that I am really valuable, that I am sexually attractive. But my mind feels quite muddled as all these kinds of statements are something I've not felt for a long time.
Can anyone share with me the basic statements of security and safety which they believe in their bones to be true, that allow them to live life with a general feeling of low anxiety?
Like: my partner generally has my wellbeing in mind and will be respectful of that.
Like what statements about your relationship do you feel are essential?