Should I invite someone I know out of my friend group to my wedding?

[Grogon]

Hello!

I have a problem. I am in a friend group but in this friend group a few people made another smaller circle of friends in which I am not included and a few others aren't either. Which is totally fine.

My problem is that in my friends group I am not close with many and the people I am close to are in this other little group with three people I am not close to at all.

It's weird because I know all of them since college.

I can't really explain how the friendship is because it changed so much in these ten years.
But either way the whole friend group is about 15 people of which I'd only like to invite 7 people to my wedding but I do like the other 8 people too but just I can't invite everyone.

My main problem is that out of those 7 I want to invite 4 are in this "smaller" friend group.
I don't even know why this smaller friend group formed because it is weird thinking about it but I am still close to a few of them even though I am not in that circle but the 3 others are also in our bigger friend group.

Well one of them had birthday and didn't invite me to the party. I wasn't even expecting it. But all my closer friends were invited to the party - well they are in that smaller circle - totally understandable.

Would it be rude to not invite those three close frieds of my close friends to the wedding? I still party with them but the only connection to them are my friends. I don't think I even have her number or anything besides facebook.

But I think it could cause awkwardness in this group not inviting them? I am afraid to invite 7 out of 15 people just because of the awkwardness of them talking about the invitation in front of the others and them not being invited.

Edit:

I am sorry english isn't my first language and I see it is kind of complicated to explain.

Big friend group of 15 people.
Out of the 15 people 7 of them made a smaller group "clique" without me being included but 4 of the 7 are still good friends of mine.

They go on vacation together etc. but I am not in that circle. Sometimes it is weird because one of the 3 people in that circle organise vacations etc. and they all come back with "insiders" we (rest of the 8 people in our group) and I do not know or can laugh about/ with because we weren't invited to the vacation.

It sounds like many these are aquaintances. Invite the people you genuinely like, and enjoy a rewarding friendship.

I think you are overthinking this. Just invite the small group you are close with. Everyone else will understand and if they don’t tough. Unless money is no object I wouldn’t worry about it.

Hm...

I dunno but it feels like I might only have a few friends.
And it seems like I am competing with one of my friends who I use to be close with. He invited me to his wedding soon but so many people coming.

It's a cheap location (our hometown) which is totally fine but he is inviting everyone. Atleast this is what it seems like and my soon wife and I wanted a bit more exclusive wedding with only close people.

I am afraid if I only invite me three best friends they'd be bored so I thought about inviting a few more people that I and they know well. My friend that invited me to his wedding is also in that group of 7 people.

It's so complicated for me.

I haven't done a lot with most of them the last years, I am 29 and distanced myself more and more because of the heavy drinking (still a lot of drinking) so I only join them every few months to let them know I exist.

I think this wouldn't be an issue if I did the wedding when I was 22 lol.

It sounds like the friends you want to invite are in the group that goes on holiday without you? You don't owe them an invitation, but it's your wedding so you invite the people you'll enjoy being with on the day!

Courtesy-wise, you 'owe' the wedding guy an invite more than the others. However, it really sounds like the friendships are re-configuring so everything's up in the air at the moment. Things change a lot as friends move into different life stages.

Don't stress too much about it, just invite your favourite pals and have a lovely day!

I'd invite the ones you are close to and leave it at thst. Or could you invite the others to evening only?

You have worked to pay for dinner for everyone at your wedding. Do you really want to pay for someone who you don’t have their number and know through Facebook? No you don’t.

Do you think they are feeling anguish over the holidays and other events you haven’t been invited to? No, they are not.

Invite who you want.

Just invite the very close friends. You're over thinking this and you said yourself the group has lots of examples where some people are invited but others (including you) aren't. Holidays, birthdays etc. just invite your 3 close friends. Why would they be bored?
If you're worried, just make sure you let them know when you give the invitations "I've invited you plus ex,y,z... that's all from our group as you're the ones I'm closest to"

It’s your wedding, invite who you want! Sounds like the best thing to do would be to have the 7 you like best to the whole thing, and invite the rest of the 15 to the evening only.

No it won't be rude.
You can invite to your wedding to whoever you like and the groom can invite to whoever he likes.

Do not invite them on the WhatsApp group that is for sure, but send them the invite by post and a private test.

Invite who you want and don’t give it another thought

Unless I've got this wrong it sounds like you've got a mature bunch of people around you who accept you can be friends /do things with different people at different times. Invite the ones you are closest to and dont worry about it.

It’s your wedding, only invite the people you want there.