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Behaviour help!

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Chéri44 · 28/08/2023 21:57

My husband took me to Paris for a 2 day trip. It was his way of trying to mend things between us as he knows he’s not been there for our family for the past 1 year and has left me to deal with Everything.
on the last day of our trip he got annoyed because I wouldn’t sleep with him. I had literally just showered and we had to leave the hotel early. He was going on about how he’d
offered me a great weekend and I should show my gratitude by pleasuring him!!! AIBU to think this is not on ?

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EmmW14 · 29/08/2023 01:09

No this is 100% not on. You do not owe your partner sex for any reason whatsoever. This weekend should’ve been about him making it up to you! Is he always like this?
Reevaluate whether or not you think continuing this relationship is the best thing for you and your family xxx

becarefulofyourheart · 29/08/2023 01:12

but surely there is nothing more erotic than bringing your wife to the city of love then going in a huff and casting it up to her cos she won’t git nasty.

YADNBU

Aquamarine1029 · 29/08/2023 01:18

Your husband is a selfish, self-absorbed dickhead. Nothing will change this. Plan your next steps accordingly.

Andthereyougo · 29/08/2023 03:37

That’s really 🤢. So unattractive. I’d be waving him goodbye.

Buildingthefuture · 29/08/2023 05:47

That is grim. And such a turn off. Can he not see that??

Autieangel · 29/08/2023 06:22

So to clarify he pays money - you have to give him sex? So he sees you as a prostitute. Nice. I wonder if he knew sex wasn't on the cards would he have bothered to book?

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Chéri44 · 29/08/2023 06:45

We had lots of sex just not on the last morning as we were up early I’d just showered while he was sleeping then he started on about sex.

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C1N1C · 29/08/2023 07:22

Sounds like the purpose of the trip wasn't so much an apology, but an "I've spent money on her, this will put me in her sexual debt" thing.

This is macho, first-date mentality... those guys that buy fancy meals expecting you to put out in return.

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