Hi 👋 I need a little advice on whether I am potentially ruining an amazing relationship because of my anxieties or whether it’s my subconscious telling me to listen to something I’m feeling.
I came out of a very complicated (near the end) 15+ year relationship around 4 years ago. We tried and tried to fix it but it destroyed us. We have a child together. There are absolutely no feelings there anymore and a lot of damage left. This was caused by him not being around much and putting other things before his family.
Last year I met an amazing man who, for the last year, has been everything I’ve ever wanted. I adore our time together, we laugh together and he is so loving and attentive. He tells me he loves me and does everything he can to show me….BUT I have this deep set worry that it isn’t real. He isn’t the best at sharing his feelings and seeming sincere. From learning his past, I worry that it’s desperation to have someone, anyone, to share his life with and it isn’t truly me he wants….. he just wants someone.
I also have a niggling voice telling me that it’s my anxiety and massive fear of another rejection causing giving me the need to push him away. Especially as I adore him. Am I trying to protect myself? Or do I need to listen to my gut?