Found videos of me having sex on my exes laptop without my consent.

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last post was deleted and I’m not sure why? I’m genuinely looking for help on this!

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I discovered videos on my ex-boyfriend's laptop in which I was being filmed having sex without my consent. This was a while back but it’s been playing on my mind for ages and I’m so scared I don’t know what to do.

To my dismay, I also found videos of other girls who seemed unaware of being filmed as well. This revelation has deeply shaken me as I had been in love with him for years, even considering him my best friend. I feel a mix of confusion, shock, and violation, yet I still find myself caring for him despite his betrayal.

I'm unsure about what steps to take or how to process my emotions. Although I don't want anything bad to happen to him, it's evident that he doesn't care about me. Currently, he is involved with someone else, which only adds to my confusion and uncertainty about what to think or do.

Does anyone know any charities I can reach out to or legal advice I could potentially get?

Go to the police. It’s a crime.

Definitely go to the police, I don’t know what offense this is (if any).

what a scum bag.

That’s awful. Take his laptop to the police.

I would contact the police, men like this have no respect for women.

For context I don’t have his laptop anymore I saw it a while back.

You can still report it

I agree about reporting him to the police. Sorry this happened to you, what an arsehole.

Report it for your sake and the girls on and soon to be probably on it.

You need to report it to the police, he has clearly done this many times before and will continue to do so unless someone puts a stop to it. Disgusting fucker.

First thing I would do is to check this website and see if your videos have been uploaded on any porn sites and then I would advise to contact the police and let them deal with it.
https://amiinporn.org/

Report him to the police. It's a crime.

Report to the police as soon as you can.
He could do anything with the data, such as upload to a dodgy site somewhere so just ring the police on the none emergency number.

You must report it . He needs to be stopped .

Oh OP - what a shock for you to find those videos! Perhaps call Rape Crisis as a starting point, you can talk about what’s happened with one of their team and start to process things. They won’t pressurise you to report if you’re not sure/ready to take that step x

If he has filmed you and other women without their knowledge or consent why should he not get into trouble? Your and their images could be anywhere. How young were these other women? It’s definitely a crime so he should be reported to the police, how else will any future women he knows be protected?

Definitely report

You need to contact the police. You might care about him, but he clearly doesn't care about you or many other women when it comes to consent.

He may have other stuff too...Definitely report him to the police