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Boyfriend texting escorts

28 replies

Peaches124 · 28/08/2023 19:41

I need help and I’m posting on here because I really don’t know who I should tell about this and talk to right now. I feel sick.

I found messages on my partners phone where he has been asking escorts in the local area to meet up with him.

I have been with him for 1.5 years and we live together but I literally need to live here for my job. My family is in another country and I can’t go back there or afford a flat for myself.

I also really don’t want to lose him either but know that it would be hard to forgive and I’d never forget so trust will be an huge issue. I just need some advice from someone.

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HenndigoOZ · 24/01/2024 06:50

I would just realistically accept that if you stay with him that he will secretively continue with his encounters with the sex workers and lie to you about it, as he is doing now. If that is your choice, use protection and get yourself tested on a regular basis for STDs. There is nothing you can do to somehow make him love you enough to give them up, as it’s a sexual taste and he doesn’t see a problem with it.

The better choice would be to leave him and free yourself for a future relationship with a faithful partner who treats you the way you deserve. Or you may actually be happy on your own. It may help to get counselling to support you in the process.

whatsitcalledwhen · 24/01/2024 08:22

@SarahP456

How can you say this man is good to you?!

Have you been in an abusive relationship in the past? I wondered whether you've been in a more 'obviously' abusive one so think that this guy is good to you in comparison?

He is truly awful.

Naunet · 14/03/2024 09:07

Lou95x · 16/12/2023 18:21

Hi I am going through the same thing only I am 3 months pregnant with him. I’m heartbroken and disgusted. We have a perfect relationship and sex life recently got engaged for months he’s been searching up local escorts going back to last year. I don’t know how to confront him about it I feel so sick my family love him too.

Please start a thread so we can give you some proper advice, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. 💐

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