New Man

[Cuppatea12]

I met a guy 2 years ago we clicked got on like a house on fire , he had issues it turned out and blew hot and cold all the time , I was in deep and put up with it as really liked him ,, it ended 1 year ago. Have now met a new really nice guy who seems very honest and open to start a relationship with me , I am attracted to him .... we get on well ....but when he initates things I seem to clam up and dont want to take it any further . Told him I was scared of being hurt again he was very understanding and wants to see me again, the thing is I am not sure I can get over this hump if you see what I mean ... do I continue to see him ?, am I being fair to him?

Trust is something you build gradually with another person but its also something you have in yourself. Do you trust yourself to end things if it isn't giving you what you need? Do you trust yourself to have your back?

Pp is spot on in asking - if you trust YOU.

It's just dating, it doesn't have to go anywhere and you can end it at any time.

Just checking- are you sure it's an issue as a result of the ex? Or could your gut genuinely be picking up on something off with him?

Take it slow, don't be rushed into anything. Treat it as a bit of fun and company. And if you do sense anything off, trust yourself and end it.

You have made me think yea trust is the issue here .......he is very keen but I do not want to be rushed into anything ...and yea it has to do with my ex the feelings keep resurfacing when i am with the new guy ,not his fault i need to get my head round it i guess thanks for your kind words and thoughts.