In a nutshell, DP has chronic back problems, which when they flare up leave him bedbound for days. When he’s doing ok, I worry that he carries on as normal as he doesn’t want to think he’s ‘failing’, but this leads to relapses. I’d do anything for him, but I’m getting frustrated about how long it takes him to see about it. He can have an op which is very risky, so I don’t blame him for not wanting that. However, proper advice, monitoring, and maybe physio and lifestyle advice may help.
When he’s ill in bed, I have to do everything for him, as well as 2 DDs (7 and 21 months) and the dog. I am the breadwinner too and work for myself, so my work takes a back seat then.
I feel for him, as he’s getting depressed, saying he doesn’t know what he can/ cannot so anymore.
I’d like to hear if anyone else has been in the same position, and what made your partner or spouse take responsibility/ adapt their lifestyle accordingly.