Need a bit of advice on what to say here

[Thewizardbinbag]

I’m probably going to get responses telling me to just leave this one and move on, but I’d really like to work it out so what do I say here?

Been with a guys for several months, it’s been great. We had a rocky couple weeks; just adjusting to working out fitting our relationship around our respective kids and exes etc. So, rocky couple week. We talked or message everyday as we can’t see each other more than once a week at the moment, and last week he stopped replying. It started with a couple of replies being very short with me, answering about his day but not asking about mine so conversation ended. Then he just stopped replying, after a few days I thought he had decided to end it by ghosting so I sent a message basically saying it was disrespectful to do that and he could have just spoken to me rather than end it that way. He then replied hours after reading it to say I knew he had the kids those days and he was also ill so that’s why he hadn’t talked to me and that he wasn’t avoiding me (Kids have never stopped us talking before; usually him calling me when his are in bed.)

Anyway, I don’t know what to reply. If we hadn’t just had a really rocky time where we did fight a bit then it’d be easy to laugh it off but it feels so awkward now.

Maybe he has cooled off (hence no replies) but actually he's keeping you on the "backburner" so not blanking you completely, but isn't that interested anymore. However, he doesn't want to say that so he replies to make it seem like you are the unreasonable one. I'd give it a few more days, just general chat like asking him what he's up to, how's his day been etc. I'd reply saying something like "Oh ok, that's what it seemed like, but glad it's not" then carry on the conversation. See if he starts replying/calling more again. If not then probably it's not the one for you.

I'd just leave it now. He's lost interest/someone else has sparked his interest.

I do feel in the pit of my stomach that I’d be flogging a dead horse. It just takes time to accept that it’s done I guess, and I really didn’t want to just let it end that way. But it isn’t really just my choice; if he’s no longer interested then it’s right to let it go rather than drag it out.