I need some advice from internet strangers who don’t know me but can give it to me straight.
my husband has always been a drinker. We’ve been together 18 years. When we first met we were both single no kids. Liked to go out drinking/partying.
fast forward to now, married, children and mid life. I no longer drink, he still does. Both work full time (although skint every month)
his drinking. Currently daily. Between 6-8 cans of lager. Plus wine on weekends. Ive tried to talk to him about this but it’s impossible. Its almost like its a sore subject now. Gets his back up. He doesn’t think there is a problem but i do. Its too much to be drinking daily if you ask me. He would argue he doesn’t drink daily but he does. Its almost gaslighting?? He does hide his drinking during the week and ive found empty bottles hidden behind sofa/drawers. Its made me lose all respect for him and ive had enough. Im so lonely. He goes off up the garden and drinks with the neighbour who is a retired old chap whose lovely and lives alone now. Thats fine for the neighbour, hes retired. Not for my husband 😣 or he will sit in the bedroom watching a series drinking. it means, i get left to parent alone. Cooking dinners, getting ready for school, bedtimes, any shopping. Last night i didnt get to bed until late as i was sorting washing. By the time i walked into the bedroom i was dead on my feet but the stink of alcohol from him was disgusting. Him lying there snoring like a pig on the bed with no duvet covers on. I just want to cry. How have i ended up in this situation? Washing up piled up downstairs, washing to go away still, im sick of it all!!!!! I might as well be a single parent. I just cant afford to split up, or i can but ill be living month to month on my wage. Help