I found out after Xmas that my husband was having an affair , this is the second affair, first one about 8 yrs ago and that affair was long term . I was devastated and couldn't believe it when i found out again .. I now find myself in the position where he is all sorry saying how i'm stupid to throw everything away.. I'd definitely never trust him again ,but I'm just wondering if I'm just better off staying and just stay in separate beds as I'm doing . Not tell anyone, live off his money ..Is the grass actually greener if i go live on my own with the children. I'm just so confused .We have two teenage children who don't know about the affair.. Neighbours here think he is this great husband and family man and he runs a very successful business..I just hate the thought of all this upheaval and upsetting the children and people will probably judge me too even though i done nothing wrong .. It feels like the dream is over .