The situation with the head of the Spanish FA, Luis Rubiales, kissing a female player, Jenni Hermoso on the lips at last week’s World Cup Final and the furore that has followed has made me question my own situation. I’m now 59, my wife is 55. I met my wife 23 years ago and we’ve been married 20 years. When I met my wife, I lived in another part of the country, and she used to visit me. I eventually moved down to her and we got a place together. My friend, whose 2 years older than me, used to visit (or we’d visit him). My wife got on very well with him and really liked him as they had a lot of interests in common – I must emphasise he is not a womaniser or a player although he has a GSOH & is very friendly, so I was probably a bit naïve about the situation and trusted him. The visits were regular to start with but then became less frequent, partly because he started to date someone. He then married himself so the four of us used to meet up maybe 2 or 3 times a year at each other’s houses, where we would always stay over. It had probably been going on for a while (in fact I know it had), but I started to notice that when we did meet, he always complimented my wife on her dress sense, which I know she liked, would often give her a big hug, sometimes lifting her off the floor, and kiss her on the lips – or at least try to. One time they were leaving our house after a weekend visit and he casually kissed my wife on the lips as they said “goodbye”. After I asked her about it and if he’d done it before and she replied, “Oh about a dozen times and sometimes when we meet up too.” After that I started to pay a bit more attention to him and noticed that he did indeed try to kiss my wife on the lips and often she tried to move her head to one side and would then laugh embarrassedly as their heads would clash but at other times he was “successful”. I remember one time we’d been out for a meal and walked back over the road to the car park, I was about to get into our car, but my friend was talking to my wife; then, out of the blue, he hugged her and gave her a big kiss on the lips, the same thing happened in another car park when we’d meet up for the day. After my wife said, “I knew he was going to do that” and even I could tell he’d been manoeuvring and waiting for an opportunity! Obviously, his wife used to see it too and she didn’t seem to mind at all. When I used to speak to my wife about it, she used to just say that sometimes she did feel a bit uncomfortable but “some people like to kiss on the lips” and there was nothing in it. I think she felt, because he was my friend, she didn’t like to make a fuss. Due to this Rubiales situation I’ve spoken to her about it again (we’ve not seen my friend for a few years now) and although she’s not deeply offended by it by any means she does now accept that perhaps he should not have done it and was a “bit forward” but she’s certainly not in the Jenni Hermoso camp! What do others think?