Silent treatment

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My wife uses silent to hurt me whenever she is upset about something. Sometimes her anger is justified but other times it’s over something frivolous (not cooking something the way she likes or not telling her what dress to buy).

I will be in front of her, trying to talk to her, and she will just pretend I am not there. However, at times, rather than being genuinely angry at me, I know she is doing it intentionally to hurt me. For example, the silent treatment will stop if she needs me to do something and restart later.

There is so much going on with me, problems at work, with out kids schooling, my unhappiness at life, that this is just an additional stressor that I no one needs.

just needed to vent to someone

I'd be frank with her, once, and only once.

'Look, we need to talk. It's not ok for you to treat me this way. We're not 5 years old. In future if there's a problem, let's sit down and talk it through like adults. Because silent treatment is not ok and I won't tolerate it moving forwards'.

If she can't fix up her act, it's time to go.

Because someone who means to hurt you...is not partner material.

Now I don't know her side tbf. You could be a powdered pain in the ass and she doesn't speak maybe because she knows she'd lose her shit if she did.

But either way, contempt has no place in a marriage. 'We work together from now on or we call it a day'.

Hey, sorry you're experiencing this it's horrible.

My wife did the same, initially it would last a little while but then it became several hours each time, then involving the children in it where I became a ghost in my own home where no one was allowed to interact with me nor I with them.

Try and communicate but acts like you aren't there, won't even look in general direction and turns away depending on where you are. Until eventually need something or it's determined it's been long enough.

It's not normal or healthy and it causes unnecessary stress and anxiety for you but also everyone in the home. Problem is I found, you try and discuss it not being a healthy way to communicate and then you're met with silent treatment..

Have you tried addressing the issue or have you faced the same result if you have?

In my case the silent treatment got worse over the years and it became abusive in other ways too. As much as I tried there was no hope.

My ex husband was like this. He used to give me the silent treatment, and it could go on for days. Often I didn't know what I had done wrong. It turned me into an anxious mess. I eventually separated from him after almost 20 years of it, and although it was a very sad time, I felt like a weight had lifted. The sad thing is, he still does it to our adult dd. I always feel very sad when she cries and tells me she doesn't know what she has done to upset him. I really feel for you. It's soul destroying. Good luck.

I would hate that.

It's abusive just leave. You don't even owe her an explanation after that show.

https://mankind.org.uk/

Contact these people, they can and will help.

Remember always that the only acceptable level of abuse in a relationship is none. Men can be abused also in relationships.

do not just vent, actively plan your exit from your abusive relationship. Silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse,

She's abusing you, so you need to leave.

What else in life are you unhappy about? It doesn't sound like you're having much fun.

We don't know that op is a man.