I’m 29 weeks pregnant and recently the baby’s dad has decided he wants nothing to do with me. We’ve been together for about a year and a half, he has two sons from a separate relationship and I have two daughters so pregnant with first child together. Everything was going extremely well until he become off one day and I told him I’d leave him too it as I didn’t want any dramas. A few days passed and I still hadn’t heard anything from him (we don’t live together) at this point I just thought he was being off. I messaged and asked what was going on and he replied ‘you wanted a reaction the other day and was being weird so I’ve left you to it’ he then went on to say we should just give each other space etc.
A few more messages were exchanged and he started digging about my past relationship with my children’s dad and making comments looking for a reaction. Which I stupidly gave him (hormonal and tired). I said some not nice things and told him I wouldn’t rely on him physically or financially when baby was here. He told me I can’t take back words and he wanted nothing to do with me moving forward.
He suffers with mental health and once he’s annoyed you can’t get him out the mood until he’s ready. A week later I re messaged apologising and updating him on the pregnancy and that we need to put a plan in place for when she arrives and meet a middle ground.
He response was very much he owes me nothing, doesn’t want to talk about anything and doesn’t have too, I’ve taken away his excitement about baby and used her as a weapon???? (I haven’t once said he couldn’t see her or have a relationship with her just I wouldn’t rely on him if he’s going to be an idiot) and told me to do what I want and brought up court and if it comes to it he will deal with it as he’s saved every message.
This guy means the world to me and I’m really struggling with letting go. He knows I put my feelings aside to put a plan in place for our baby girl because he’s completely shut me off. Any advice?