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Lack of support from partner

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Daisysimply · 27/08/2023 12:07

Hi just looking for a bit of a rant to be honest.

Feeling a bit down at the moment over the lack of help and support I get off my partner. I feel as though he feels some sort of resentment towards me maybe because the baby wasn’t planned or maybe because in his words ‘I sit at home all day’ whilst he goes to work. He cooked food for himself last night whilst I looked after the baby but didn’t make me anything, refuses to get up with the baby as he has to wake up at 7am for work, won’t do the dishes after he’s made a mess and tries to make me feel bad over the lack of intimacy between us at the moment. I breastfeed, wake up multiple times a night with the baby and have no energy for any intimacy right now but he’s not very understanding of this.

I don’t really have many people to talk to at the moment or to help me so I rely on him a lot but feel he just isn’t supporting me how I need him to. I pull him up on his behaviour but he just makes me feel bad and says he is helping and makes me question if I’m asking to much from him. I guess I just want an outsiders perspective on whether his behaviour is acceptable or not? Any comments appreciated

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frozendaisy · 27/08/2023 21:33

He didn't make some food for the breastfeeding mother of his child.

Tells you everything OP

Can you go to your mum for a couple of weeks.

CheeseAndCrackersx · 27/08/2023 21:43

Of course you're not asking him for too much. And the baby might not have been planned but you didn't make it on your own so he needs to step up!

Daisysimply · 28/08/2023 10:18

Yes I feel like that was the final straw for me and really showed how little he cares for/ respects me. I’m planning on staying at my mums for a bit to see if some time away from him will make he step up but I’m not feeling hopeful.

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