post natel depression and no-one there for me, i am alone all weekend now

[newmummy27]

nobody seems to understand, following from my thread last night "i am having a panic attack right now" this morning my husband has gone to stay with his parents the other side of the country, just for the weekend, i couldnt bear another weekend with him and the ups and downs. i tried to tell my mum this morning and she has just gone to the hairdressers and gone shopping. i am alone with baby, he is fine, asleep at the moment, but i am so upset. my mum says i need to live my own life. i need to go out and get baby milk today and i am a mess, i am so exhausted, i cant think straight. i know i need to keep going, nobody seems to understand the life i am living, its as if i have had the baby and that is it, bck to usual, but its not. i dont think my mum sees me as a mother yet. i get ignored. please hep me.i will get through the weekend, i am so low i cant reach out for help.

i think my husband is depressed aswell. everything feels like a mess, a baby has made everythig so "real" does that make sense?

Hi NewMummy, no advice except all the words of wisdom already offered on here, just to say I am thinking of you and hope you're okay!

It is really hard, almost all of us feel as overwhelmed as you at some point. Make sure you don't beat yourself up about anything, as said earlier, congratulate yourself on every little triumph. Hope you feel better soon xxx

PS don't forget you can call your HV at any time!

Everything feels like a mess because you have been plunged into a world where nothing is in your control and you must constantly bend to the whims of an adored screaming megalomaniac. Of course it feels like everything's a mess!

But, you know, you don't have to sort everything oujt and make it aLl smooth and lovely, that's not your job. Your job is to feed bathe and clothe yourself and baby and try to get through each day. That's all you have t do, and you are coping, because you are doing it.

I would seriously go back to the doc if the medication isn't working after12 weeks though.

i will go back to the doc, i have an amazing ability to pretend things are ok and fool people. i have been doing it fo a long time

You need to not do that when you go to the doc, NM27

Write down how you are feeling day to day, write down how you feel at your worst. Then give him or her the paper when you go to the GP.

I read your thread couldnt not post.I am so sorry you are going through this it is utterly shite ,i understand completely where you are coming from.You say your dh isn't coping well with your illness? has the GP had a chat with him? It can be very helpful to have things explained,my GP spoke to dp when i was very ill following the birth of my dd2 and it did help.
You do need head space and time to yourself though because your dh not coping will make you feel worse.Can you arrange for your dh to pop in for an hour or so tomorrow as it is mothers day? knowing that he will be going back to his parents may take some pressure off.
Do go back to your GP though ,print this thread off and show him/her if it is easier.
Keep talking on here ,you are not alone on mumsnet

xxxxx

pfnm
thanks. he cant just pop back as they are at the other side of the country
i really feel ill

Hello again

I hope you have managed to have a reasonable day and that things are looking brighter now. I hope you managed to find someone to keep you company, for some of the time atleast.

Please post again to let us know how you're getting on.

newmummy27 how are you tonight?

Just checkin in to see how you are newmummy.

Newmummy27 hope you are ok?

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