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Freind from the past

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Alida88 · 25/08/2023 23:12

I have recently met again with an old friend who I was once very close to. We have spent a number of hours together and she has not asked or shown any interest in anything that has happened or current in my life. My children, parents, work etc should I not bother continuing the friendship.

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KnickerlessParsons · 26/08/2023 00:00

Was that a question?

WhenIWasAFieldMyself · 26/08/2023 00:02

KnickerlessParsons · 26/08/2023 00:00

Was that a question?

Do you have comprehension problems?

KnickerlessParsons · 26/08/2023 00:03

No. But you seem to have punctuation problems.

Martedi · 26/08/2023 00:12

Is there any chance she was afraid that something terrible might have happened and didn’t want to ask? Or perhaps something terrible has happened to her so she was trying to keep off certain topics?

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Alida88 · 26/08/2023 00:24

We have known one another and families from childhood. I naturally asked about her siblings, children etc but not one question about mine. We have met twice and spent approximately 3 hours each time...no interest or curiosity at all. She wants me to meet her children so I can share memories about her with them. I feel it's one sided and I'm not comfortable. I wondered if I was being too sensitive. Thoughts please.

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Alcemeg · 26/08/2023 00:35

Not sure. My brothers are like this. I don't think it's personal, I think they just can't see past the end of their own noses. Not worth fretting about, methinks. Save your energy for people who care!

Absolutelynotfor2019 · 26/08/2023 00:38

I met up with an old friend today and had a lovely couple of hours. Yes she probably talked more about herself but just enjoyed her company.🤷‍♀️

Marineboy67 · 26/08/2023 08:50

You owe this person nothing, if your not comfortable with the lack of interest in your life just walk away. If they contact you again say sorry I'm to busy.

Thequeenofthetypis · 26/08/2023 08:53

Is there any chance she is ill or something? Wanting you to share memories of her when she was young is a bit strange...
How did you come to be back in contact?

Namechange666 · 26/08/2023 08:53

Maybe meet up one more time and if she does it again, just leave it be.

Sounds to me though, like you're not feeling it anyway. Don't force something if you're not that into it.

TheDogthatDug · 26/08/2023 09:32

Something similar happened to me a while ago - old friend who I had been very close with until I moved from my home town. She did not ask one think about me or my life, it was over 30 years since we had seen each other, it was all about her. She had always been like that though. I didn't bother with her again.

MarthaSchumann · 26/08/2023 10:13

She wants me to meet her children so I can share memories about her with them.

This bit is particularly odd and forced. I would have no interest in doing that at this stage in your re-kindled friendship.

Whether or not I would bother meeting up again would depend on how much I enjoyed her company and how I felt after meeting her the last two times. If she went on and on about her life but had zero interest in yours I would leave it - just too self absorbed.

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