How long would you wait or would you bother?

[blavy]

I met a man by chance but he had only
Finished a relationship. We dated briefly but despite him
Finishing the relationship for good reasons, he definitely has a lot of healing to do. He thought they'd be together forever as did she but some hidden truths came out that were hard to come back form so the relationship is over.
She is deviated, he is sad and nostalgic but feels he's done the right thing.
I put an end to it for that reason and we both said we hoped we might reconnect once the time is right in the future.
It's hard to meet with someone you click at my age, I believe. We really do get on and we're compatible but no respect that there's a lot of healing to do.
How long would you keep the door open? I'm not averse to dating others but really have no interest.
Or would you bother?
I am living a busy life and certainly not crying into my tea but at the same time, should I reach out in a few months.
I don't want to be friends. I find that too hard.

I wouldn't wait.

But, in a situation like this I'd leave the ball in his court, and let him know he can reach out to me if he gets to a point where he feels the time is right, however I'd also let him know that there is no guarantee I'd be interested/ single by that point. And I'd make steps to move on. I wouldn't be the one to reach out, I think that has to come from him - only he will know when he's able to do that, or if at all.

Probably in the first instance when feeling that sting of knowing it's not going to happen now, possibly ever, for me that would mean just focusing on all the things in life that are a sure bet to bring me joy. Then when I feel ready to date again, make steps to get out there and meet new people. What will be will be.

Hope it works out well for you OP, one way or the other 💐