Anyone else the rebound girl ?

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Well I've just realised that I am/ was that girl. I met him quite soon after his relationship ended. He spoke about their issues incessantly and I enabled it all.
He then didn't feel he could continue seeing me as his head was a mess from that break up and a whole load of other issues.
We decided to see where we were I a few months and then it hit me... I was the rebound girl.. good for sex and a listening ear for a continuous stream of emotional vomit but I allowed that. Where was my self worth??? I'm so surprised at myself !

So I just said to him yesterday that I really didn't see any point in contact and he agreed.He said that things were still a mess after a few months.

I'm fuming with myself and feel very used this morning.
Anyone else in this position?

Firstly, assuming you are an adult- you are a woman, not a girl.

Right. A rebound woman then.

That's a great start in building self worth. Then work on others, do things you want to do. Live a life you want, take charge. Don't beat yourself up, you have learned from this situation and now you are wiser, more experienced. Good things ahead ☺️

It's good that you spotted it and acted on the information rather than hang in there and tried to get him interested in you.

I feel really hurt and he is gaslighting me now. Jesus... some men ....

Some people seek comfort in their pain straight after a break up. Both men and women. It’s just unfortunate that you were on the end of it but it happens and better just putting it bed so to speak and moving on.

I totally feel you, in a similar situation myself and feel like an idiot. How do they have this effect on us 😫

No but I was the Good-Luck-Chuck one for a few years. About 5 boyfriends in a row all dumped me then subsequently got engaged & married to their next girlfriend.

It's like I was some sort of Training centre or finishing school for the fuckers 😂