Narc ex showing off about his holiday to our son

[TitaniumTess]

Stunned. Narc ex partner has gone on holiday abroad with his latest girlfriend and her kids...which our child was expecting to go on (they've been promised it for months).

Video call as enforced by family court....my ex sits with girlfriend's kids on his knee and shows off all about the holiday to our child, who looked stunned to be honest. Super mean I think.

I feel really sad that our child has such a selfish Dad....who worked when it was his time with our child this summer.

I am guessing that lovebombing the new gang wins over spending time with his own child....???

Yeah what a tasteless wanker.

Dick move

What an absolute dick. Your poor DC.
Best thing to do is to do everything you can to distract your DC from this but never ever mention their dad. Let DC develop their own opinion over time.
Save and give DC holiday of their dreams! (I couldn't take DD abroad so I found an Air BnB with a hot tub and it was brilliant!)

Thanks. That's my plan. Be the best Mum.

Prick. Hope you DC is ok

@sunshinenshower thanks. They've been very huggy.

I can't understand why their Dad didn't at the very least just speak to him on his own.. about our DC's life....without making it so obvious.

It was all 'look at the gardens...and our new toys....' etc. Broke my heart to be honest. Loads of rubbing our DC's nose in it...

What a wanker.

At least you are rid.

I would be devastated for my child but he knows that.

That's exactly why he did it.

To get at you and not give a shit of the impact on his own child.

That is really nasty behaviour. Can you imagine getting a new boyfriend who behaved like that? You would have to be an absolute twat to put up with it.

God, I am so sorry. Watching them hurt this way is the worst thing, as you have no control. My DD is now almost 14 and has no relationship with her dad, totally her choice ,due to behaviour like this from her dad. Huge hugs to your child

@determinedtomakethiswork I was worried about new girlf for months as he was really abusive to me..

But she wrote a really horrible statement about what a terrible Mum I am (all untrue) so I think she's less than ideal too!

So you think he did it so that your child would not want to see him anymore so that he can blame the child for why he doesn't have contact?

Sorry. By STBXH nobbed off abroad for a week with his partner, despite promising the kids he was taking them away…..
2 years on, still hasn’t happened .

@Valerie23 I hadn't thought that far. I don't think he has! I think he's just selfish to be honest.

@DaughterNo2 Sorry for yours too. I don't get it! Either do something or don't. It's the false promise isn't it x

My DH's ex did something very similar when their DC were 8 and 10. She went to Disney land with her new partner and sent them a postcard of the park, telling them that they would love it there. We did not show the card to the kids but she bombarded them with stories and photos when she returned.
Both DC in their 40s now and have never forgotten it and have a very fractured relationship. In fact, the youngest is NC with his mum. Karma will get your ex.

Thanks. I've been waiting for karma for 7 years now... :)

My ex is just in disneyland with his partner (woman he cheated with and left me for) and her son. Our two kids were told a 'bunch of made up excuses' as to why they weren't going too. Those are my 9 yr olds words. Hope Mickey nuts him one. Nasty nasty people.

Yeah, that's a horrible thing to do.

But presumably that's based on bullshit he's told her? You're now the crazy ex, as far as she's concerned.

She'll learn, sadly.

Your poor DS. It's a hard thing when you realise your parent is an unkind, bullying, cruel shit.

Sounds like a few men doing similar!

I am indeed the crazy ex in her head. :/

I feel for our son. It's sad thinking about a Dad being so selfish x

That is so bloody cruel to the child. How heartless can a parent be?

Oh well, one day he will be a miserable old man, all on his own with nobody bothering to visit him as he dc have all gone nc because they see him for the nasty piece of shit he is. It will bite him in the arse eventually

He's messaged in the app.

Obviously he says he's putting our son's welfare first, and that he knew and that it is my fault for not letting him go.

Delusional these people, aren't they?!?!

Delusional, sociopathic gaslighters.

My narc ex now has 4 kids by 3 of us none of which he sees, pays anything towards etc my DD14 hasn't seen him since she was 2 and honestly I'm glad.

It's much harder for DC to deal with the situation you are in than mine.

I'm really sorry.

Thanks. I never know with comms whether to say little, thinking..'don't wrestle with a pig....you get dirty and the pig enjoys it....' or whether to actually state the truth back.

Never really know ....

I know I've got an upset son. Xxx

@TheUniversalsHere, I laughed at your Mickey comment, and agree! X