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Ughh why do people care

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whocaresanyway111 · 24/08/2023 13:59

Long story short, become single a few years ago (horrible, complicated breakup from abusive ex), finally got a bit of confidence after some time and had FWB situation. Very casual, also made very clear it wasn't going to lead anywhere. Lasted on and off for maybe 6 months or so, speak now if we see each other out although don't see each other often at all nowadays.

Forward to now, a year later, FWB's friend whom I've never met is out with ex-FWB and other people, randomly including DP, the FWBs friend pipes up "I can't keep up with who is sg who in this town" I.e. me and insinuating this FWB situation is very recent and overlapped with DP, which it most certainly hasn't. Who even says stuff like this out and in a group of people. I actually trusted FWB this was just something we kept quiet and so long ago didn't think it would ever be mentioned (why would it). DP is now questioning my loyalty and I'm so annoyed the past is being dragged up like this. For men always seems it's fine to have all these one night stands or women on the go yet women aren't meant to do anything like this. Maybe I'm BU but needed to rant!

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roses321 · 24/08/2023 14:01

Your title pretty much summed up my view on this - I think you're right, and I think your answer is:

I did nothing wrong and I am not open to debating the past with you.

End of.

Valid8me · 24/08/2023 14:05

I'm not sure why you assume that comment was directed at you, it doesn't sound that way to me, it could have been referring to anyone.

whocaresanyway111 · 24/08/2023 14:11

@Valid8me I see what you mean, I wasn't there (as pregnant and v tired at the moment). The comment was apparently very much aimed at DP about me as this FWBs friend had seen me and DP out at an event a few months ago.

It's more annoying I don't even know this person, not even his name, why are people so invested in other peoples non-business!

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FairlySane · 24/08/2023 14:13

He’s an immature nasty little cunt 😡

DP needs to move on to discussing more interesting things.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 24/08/2023 15:20

He’s an immature nasty little cunt

this
and your dp shouldn’t pay any attention to him

Opentooffers · 24/08/2023 15:57

I'd be a tad concerned by your DP's reaction. He relayed it back to you and questioned your loyalty, rather than putting the guy in his place and keeping it to himself so as not to upset you - the expected response.

whocaresanyway111 · 24/08/2023 17:47

@Opentooffers this is true, I hadn't really thought about it like that, when he said I suddenly felt bad and embarrassed for DP having to hear something like that too, I hadn't obviously told him all about my past with stuff like that as frankly I don't see it as his business, I think he felt a bit put on the spot

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