Is this a red flag?

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Started speaking to a guy from work who left his number for me at my desk lol. My friend actually said that would have put her off from the start!! I didn't mind tbh and thought it was sweet. We have only spoken on friendly terms and we are meeting up this bank holiday. It's not been referred to as a date or anything but I'm going to assume he thinks it is? Or do people not consider it a date unless told? Anyway my birthday is before the bank holiday and my desk had a card and present on it this morning opened it and it's clearly a well thought about card and present (custom) but is this a bit full on so early on? Just trying to gauge general opinion

Well ummm.... it's difficult to know but y'know... would he be willing to actually talk to you or is he just going to keep leaving things on your desk and running away? I think that's a bit odd but go with it and see what happens when you meet up.

Just be wary of people trying to reel you in. Gifts when you don't know someone well always strikes me as a red flag or odd, and so does giving numbers. I don't know why he can't just email you and ask you out for a film or a drink or something.

Just be on your guard it seems love bomby but i really don't know enough to say more than my initial view and that's informed by my past experiences which may not be everyone elses.

Who contacted who and how did the meet up get arranged? I don’t see what the red flag is meant to be here 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’d much prefer the method of dropping his number on your desk and giving you the option of contacting or ignoring it (or pretending you didn’t see it). It’s takes the pressure and embarrassment out of asking face to face or even over email if you were going to reject him. Was the gift fairly inexpensive and given before or after the meet up was arranged?

a thoughtful card and low key gift sounds ok. See how the ‘date’ goes.

Just trying to gauge general opinion

Why? If it makes you uncomfortable, it's a red flag. If you like the feeling it gives you, it isn't. What we think is neither here nor there. Some people might find it full-on, some people might find it attentive. But nobody except you is considering dating him. Your opinion is the only one that matters, and if you don't trust it, you shouldn't date at all, because you're very vulnerable.

I texted him and then I did suggest we should meet up and he said yeah but then never really said much about it so I thought was a bit odd as he had left his number and then he did bring it up and invited me out and I said yes. The gift was given after we had arranged to meet and is inexpensive even if thoughtful but it is custom/personalised. Don't know just wasn't sure if that was usual as my friends seem quite negative about that and thinks it's odd

But why does it need to be 'usual'? Are you looking for Mr Normal? Or Mr He-Does-Unusual-Stuff-I-Love?