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emotionally abusive

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Isitseptember · 24/08/2023 09:50

Parter is accusing me of being cold & emotionally abusive.

After he was verbal abusive to me over a month ago I do feel I can't move forward. He wants to make up and try again but I can't show affection at the minute. I am trying to get on with things cooking tea, house work, I will eat out with him & take kids out. Its the best I can do. He says it's shit like this and I'm being so cold.
I don't want to break the family up, I'd have to move out, it's bad timing too.
Is being distant emotionally abusive?
He blames the drink for his part & hasn't touched it since.
I am also pregnant so emotions were high but now I feel depressed & down.

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TheWayoftheLeaf · 25/08/2023 22:48

I'd go to therapy tbh. You're both throwing around 'abusive' but neither is leaving so see if an impartial gaze will help.

If not leave. If you're unhappy then leave. Sadly as it's his house it is you who will have to leave.

TheWayoftheLeaf · 25/08/2023 22:49

Isitseptember · 24/08/2023 15:19

There was shouting and I said don't shout at me like that his response was I will, what are you going to do about it, still shouting.

Also not being dismissive but that doesn't sound bad. That's a kind of rote reaction to a lot of people.

If you were both shouting what makes one of you abusive and the other not?

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Isitseptember · 26/08/2023 08:03

I wasn't shouting it was him, I don't shout. @TheWayoftheLeaf

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