Insure partner messaged my friend to stay away

[Mumstaxi100]

Been seeing a Spanish guy now for around 2 months, I never have an issue that i can’t understand his calls to people ect.
I have a male ex that did mean a lot me, we have remained friends but he’s very respectful of my relationship also he is with someone and it’s difficult as he is close with my 10 year old son. My son has been thought a lot and they really are close, the ex has no children of his own. We were only together around 8 months and something always held me back from making a commitment.

Saturday night my new partner, unlocked my phone when I was asleep and messaged my friend a bombardment of messages at 4am.. telling him to stay away and he can’t be around my son ect new partner has a child but he left her in Spain with family.
Do I end it? How can I trust him! He also hid the fact he had sent any messages I found them thinking my friend was quiet, he was very upset

I have been in controlling relationships in the past..

Why on earth was there any need to do a reverse here. Yes your friend needs to ditch new man. But I also think it is very odd that you are apparently very close to a 10 year old child of somebody you dated for a few months.

Yes he needs to be binned that's awful behaviour.

Also, being in this convoluted weird relationship with and ex and having this connection to a child isn't right. This is so heavily confusing for a child. Children need commitment, routine and consistency. Not someone in and out their life. At any point ex can get a new partner who would rightfully think a relationship so close with a kid when they dated the parent only 8 months years ago is bizarre.

The OP takes on a whole new tone when you realise it was written by her ex. Not a friend, let's be clear, but her ex. It's very manipulative to focus on the "friend" label rather than the fact you used to be in an intimate relationship.

She's with a controlling man now. You say she's been in controlling relationships in the past. So were you the exception? Or is there perhaps a possibility that you, as well, were controlling?

Because writing a reverse post on MN to get strangers to unwittingly back up your point of view before confronting her is, in itself, kind of controlling. It's certainly manipulative.

As others have pointed out it's weird that you feel such a closeness with her son who you didn't even know for a year. Definitely overstepping some boundaries there. He's not your son. Stop acting like he is and using it as an excuse to have to stay in her life.

Also, how do we know the real situation is what the friend/ex posting here says it is?

Maybe he's been harrassing this poor women, using her son as an excuse to want to see them both, proper creeping her out, and she's asked her new Spanish boyfriend to have a word with him because he's not listening to her?

Something's not right here and I'd take everything he says with a massive spoonful of salt.

Sorry OP, everyone hates a reverse!

Ugh, reverses are just annoying and unnecessary. Just write a genuine post from your own point of view.

Absolute hate reverse posts. Totally confused now. Are all the sexes the same as you have stated? Are you and your friend the same sex? Just best friends or has there been an intimate relationship? Write it out again but this time stick to the correct scenario or we can’t begin to give you a genuine opinion.

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END IT NOW!

Bad start to a relationship.

This man is definitely controlling...
You'll have regrets if you stay with him.

Read the full thread...

The red flags are the op

Of course she should end it, but you can't force that. If your main concern is her child, try to focus on that relationship if she will allow it. And ignore the shit from her boyfriend as much as possible