Split from husband and getting threats from another man

[Reds2004]

So earlier in the year, me and my husband hit a point which I felt we couldn't return from. We've got 3 kids, it can be stressful at times and we've neglected each other for the last few years. We decided to separate which was mainly my choice. We have continued living together while we sell the house. During this time I have met another man several times. I kept this from my husband as I didn't want to cause any unnecessary hurt especially still living together and having the kids amongst any more stress. A couple of months ago I decided to cool things off with this other man. I realised I just needed time to concentrate on my kids and sort my head out. This didn't go down very well at all. He's constantly said he should tell my husband the truth of what's been going on etc, and it's recently become even worse, so I have told my husband everything. The other guy doesn't believe me so has messaged him and says he also sending him a letter in the post. I have blocked him on all social media, but my husband can't help but check his face book. He's saying things like he's got videos he is happy to share of women etc it's really making me ill. I don't know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated. Before any negative comments I know I should have probably been straight with my husband, but I care about him and lovw him still I just didn't want to hurt him

Go to the police. I've had to do it for 2 men who wouldn't leave me alone after I'd finished it and both times the police had a stern word and I didn't hear from them again thank god.

It sounds like you still love and care for your husband. Are you sure splitting up is the right decision?

Save any messages you have and report him to the police. He is breaking several laws which police are nowadays very keen to arrest and charge for. The evidence is there, so it's an easy case for them and he'll be out of your life.

And as others have said the police will take this extremely seriously

Report to police now

He is a really good person I love him so much, and we have been talking about trying to get through all this and move forward together if he can. We just drifted apart and didn't prioritise each other. We were like passing ships a lot of the time which left me feeling there was no hope for us. But after having this time apart, I know what we need to do moving forward to be happy. I just hope we can be

Report it to the police. Call your local station and tell them you'd like to report someone for harassment then give all the details. It is harassment.

Thank you... I wish I felt like that. Just full of guilt and shame

I had a very similar situation to yours and didn’t report it to the police as I was too scared of the consequences and thought it would just peter out eventually.
It went on for about 3 years during which time he contacted my ex, sent images, contacted my parents, waited outside my workplace and my son’s school, and sent thousands of abusive and threatening emails (I couldn’t block emails, only divert them to junk).
It has been truly awful. As you have said OP, at its worst it made me sick with fear and anxiety.
Just wanted to share this to reinforce what others have said- absolutely get the police involved now. I can’t tell you how much I wish I had done this as soon as he started with the threats. People like this do not have normal boundaries.
All the best OP- I sincerely hope you get this utter arsehole out of your life and can move on from this experience.

Unblock his account, get the screenshot and then deactivate your account for a while

Report to the police you have children they need to be safe

And of course reporting it does not automatically mean they will but you have a responsibility to them